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Saturday 4 April 2015

What is the Ego and Why does it Make us Suffer?

The Ego is our ground state; our pure self. Our individuality is a flame in the eternal fire and our ego is our flame’s heat. The non-ego part of us is our flame, or our spirit, before the ego starts to define it, as well as the entire fire, which reflects the unity of reality.

To be absolutely clear, it’s not our awareness which is our ego, but everything which defines what our individual awareness is. What we identify as characteristics and beliefs about ourselves are reflections of our ego. It is all our personality traits – both good and bad – which means it can be functional and healthy, or the opposite.

All egos have their flaws, which is perfectly okay. However, there’s nothing wrong with developing it either. If our ego is continually angry, self-absorbed, depressed, stubborn or an array of other problematic mind and behavioural states, then there is a clear need for some self-improvement. In addition, if it gets really upset about something not going its way or has an unjustified sense of entitlement, then it is dysfunctional and self-abusive. The same goes if it is more likely to react instantly to situations instead of accessing its executive thinking capacity to respond appropriately to the circumstances. If it pisses a lot of people off, instead of the rare few (well, we can’t please everybody), then it’s not just causing others to suffer, but also itself...read more>>>...